Life Lately: Crazy Busy Mom Life

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My Current #Momlife Situation

This summer has been an extremely hectic, non-stop in-and-out-of-the-house season for Selene and I. Throughout the whole school year, she has been persistent in requesting to try out ballet, gymnastics, art class and music classes. Guess what? In 2 months, we have ticked off three out of those four activities. And can I just say? It has been nothing short of an Olympic sport trying to manage getting her to all her classes while still making time for my own work commitments on top of making sure she and Tristan are attended to. Not to mention, our 6-month-long yaya left us in the midst of all this which just made the whole ordeal 3x more challenging.
By no means is this a rant or a complaint post, you guys. I just thought I’d be open and share what goes on behind the polished Instagram posts and sporadic Instagram stories… a mom-on-the-edge-of-insanity-but-needs-to-hold-it-together-because-theres-no-other-choice. There was one particular day – during Selene’s recital – where I was at the brink of breaking down as I just felt physically and mentally drained. But I had no time nor venue to express my “breakdown” because I had to work, catch Selene’s recital and celebrate it with her afterwards.
And I share this because I want to acknowledge all these feelings we moms go through and I want to honor all the moms – who keep marching on tough day after tough day. It’s no easy feat being a mother (a single mother at that) when people depend on you that your mind and body feel like they’re not yours anymore. The few times we think of ourselves and maybe want to do something to make us feel better, we even stop and feel that dreaded #MomGuilt – “Am I being selfish?”, Should I be doing this, I mean shouldn’t I be 24/7 with my kids?” 
Art camp with Teacher Robert Alejandro

Celebrating “Everyday Wins”

I could go on and on about my mom woes. But again, just because I share motherhood is hard doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate it. God, it’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. I can’t imagine my life without my kids and I would never trade it for anything, real talk. But I just also want to be completely transparent and show the other side of the #Momlife world. That while it’s the most fulfilling job in the world, it is still not all rainbows, unicorns, butterflies and sunshine everyday. What has kept me sane, stable and standing (!) – these past years especially – is the act of celebrating daily victories. Everyday wins that are seemingly mundane but with a shifted perspective are actually celebratory feats in themselves.
Like during the recital day a.k.a breakdown day, I celebrated the fact that I was able to bring Tristan to a work commitment – just the two of us with no other companion – and survived. He even enjoyed the event – which was a toy launch – that he didn’t want to leave at all. And how we managed to catch Ate Selene’s recital by taking the MRT while lugging around what felt like Thor’s mjolnir inside my big weekend bag (who brings a weekend bag good gosh!).
These small wins can even be “smaller“. Like just being able to book a car in minutes without having to wait for half an hour just to get cancelled on three times. Or being able to leave the house, kids in tow with kilay application time to spare. Or surviving a whole day without any of the bambinos throwing a tantrum while you’re left feeling helpless when you were out. It’s celebrating seemingly ‘small things’ that make us feel instantly uplifted and shift our negative perspectives to a more positive one. It doesn’t solve problems or magically make you feel 100% better but it’s a start.
Last month, I shared how just getting to Selene’s camp on time was a daily win for us. With no yaya to help around with Tristan, making sure both of them were clothed, bathed and fed (esp Tristan as I turn him over to my mom for the day), getting out of the house complete with all the necessary baon and art kits in tow and arriving to the workshop on time was a cause for a mini celebration. Instead of complaining about how hard it is without help or a yaya, I chose to focus on being able to accomplish the tasks instead.
May sound and seem like a shallow thing but it has helped me throughout these past years where I have to solely balance everything without going crazy – apart from my faith and spirituality, that is. With all the pressure on moms today on getting everything done – with social media to add to the already centuries-old expectations of a mother – I don’t want women who feel like me to go through it alone thinking others have it easy.
So take it easy, mommas. Breathe. Relax. Take it one day at a time. Pray, genuinely lift up all your worries and fears and doubts. Disconnect from social media from time to time to recharge and reflect.Go outside with your kiddos, play with them, breathe fresh outdoor air and hydrate – drink up on your H20! It’s the small, simple things that add up together to make a significant difference in our overall well-being.
For our family, we choose Absolute Distilled drinking water because it’s the #1 distilled drinking water. I’m assured that what my kids are drinking is safe as it’s the purest form of water. You can read more about it on my previous post here. Especially when we go out and eat at restaurants, I always bring Absolute bottles (kaya super bigat ng bag ko!) because as much as possible, I don’t want to risk their sensitive stomachs by letting them drink filtered tap water. There are a lot of branded water out there but how do you make sure that their claims are legitimate? How are you even sure they follow strict protocol? Well, with Absolute, we rest easy because they are National Sanitation Foundation International certified – meaning they abide by international standards!
Among my list of worries as a mom, making sure the water my family ingests is safe – is ticked off with Absolute. What drinking water do YOU trust, momma?
*In collaboration with Absolute Distilled. All stories are genuinely my own.
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4 Comments

  1. Arselyn de Guzman-Intoy
    May 28, 2018 / 6:56 pm

    I also trust Absolute! And relate ako sayo, water din nagpapabigat lagi sa bag ko pag umaalis kami, kasi bukod sa sippy cup ni Zophie na may water, nagdadala pa ako ng additional bottles just in case maubos nya agad yung nasa sippy cup nya.
    With regard to everyday wins, agree ako with you, it’s a good practice to celebrate smaller wins each day kasi it promotes positivity and lakas maka-shift ng perspectives. Gaya nung nasabi ko before sa isang IG post mo, sine-celebrate ko yung mga yun by means of writing sa planner ko. Then during times na feeling beyond exhausted and waley/lutang ako, kukunin ko lang yung planner ko tas basa-basa, iba yung feeling, parang instant reminder na super blessed pala ako at hindi dapat magpatalo sa mga negative vibes. Well, hindi naman magiging ganito ka-colorful ang life kung wala ang mga struggles and challenges na yan. Kelangan lang talaga, piliin pa rin natin na tingnan yung brighter side. I encourage you to start writing na rin sa journal mo (diba sabi mo sa reply mo sa akin bumili ka pa ng journal nung start ng year pero hindi mo pa sya talaga na start), start mo na po. Medyo di nga lang sya madali sa umpisa pero once nagawa mo na sya, magiging part na sya ng daily routine mo. I started doing that few months after giving birth (exactly two weeks after ko magresign sa work ko), feeling ko kasi nung mga time na yun, mababaliw na ko, wahehehehe! Na-overwhelm ng bongga sa motherhood, akala ko dati madali, hindi pala hehehehe! Tas ayun, sa tulong nyan, unti-unti nakabalik naman ako sa katinuan 😂😂😂😂 pero seriously, laking tulong nyan sa akin.. Mas natuto ako iappreciate lahat, kahit yung simpleng 10 minutes nap. Super grateful na ko dun, achievement na yun pag mom ka.hehehhehee! Ang dami ko sinabi hehehehe! Ang gusto lang naman talaga sabihin eh, isa kang inspiration sa aming mga moms! Hands-down ako kung paano mo namamanage ng bongga ang time mo and looking pretty pa din, to think wala kang yaya last year for ilang months tas ngayon waley ulit! SuperMom talaga! 🙌🙌🙌

  2. Anna Escalona
    May 28, 2018 / 8:22 pm

    I am a witness to your mega busy #momlife. Pero grabe I don’t know how you do what you do, keeping up with your deadlines with two kids wanting to play with you 24/7, sometimes with no yaya, with Tristan in tow, and sometimes I leave Enjo pa with you! #MomLife is hard but it is so rewarding and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

  3. Dhes Daroya
    May 30, 2018 / 2:44 pm

    Nothing but Absolute!!! At the end of each busy day, no matter how easy going or hard it was, it will be fulfilling because as moms, we know that we are helping our children achieve their dreams step by step. Bonus if every night they will hug you, say I love you and thank you for another day. 🙂 And hooraay for our moms too right? they are really our life saver since birth! girl, makakaluwag luwag ka na sa pasukan haha!

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